Handling Stress - FEEL GOOD

Posted 11:16 PM by Mezhal Ulao in Labels:
Let's take a look at how stress is met by modern humans. Stress, just the mere mention of the word causes a lot of people to cringe. Often, it is viewed as something that is utterly bad and unhealthy. The word in itself was misinterpreted in this sense. If one does a little research there are actually two types of stress. The one that causes negative feelings and emotions is what we call "distress" and the other which is the type of stress that gives us a positive, uplifting emotion is "eustress". Keeping that in mind the actual definition of stress is the reaction that causes us to anticipate and compensate emotionally for the demands of our environment. It is what triggers our fight or flight mechanism. To put it simply, if you experience something bad and your natural fight or flight instinct to deal with the incoming experience is supressed because you figured that you can't go against it nor could you deny it, then this is a source of your distress. If its something pleasurable, I would doubt that you would find it hard not to face it, including the stress that comes with it's anticipation. On that note let's check out the different ways that will help you determine how stressed you really are and more importantly how to cope with it.

First step is identifying if you are coping well when it comes to handling distress. I want you take a look at the list below and see if your answer is yes to any one of them:
Are you experiencing -
Memory problems
Inability to concentrate
Trouble thinking clearly
Poor judgment
Seeing only the negative
Anxious or racing thoughts
Constant worrying
Loss of objectivity
Fearful anticipation
Short temper
Irritability, impatience
Inability to relax
Feeling tense and “on edge”
Feeling overwhelmed
Sense of loneliness and isolation
Depression or general unhappiness

If you answered yes to more than 10 of these, then I would say it's time for you to sit back and have a good look at what is causing you to be so distressed in the first place. Otherwise, like a chain being pulled from either end, you are bound to break.

I know a lot of you might get worried by now, especially if your the type that had answered yes to a majority of the things listed above. There is hope though, as with all areas of opportunities that one may face there is always a solution. Awareness was the first step and the next step is acceptance.

Acceptance that there is something going on, if not wrong, inside your head. Yes, it is something that is purely mental. Distress is a "dis-ease" of the mind to cope with what is happening around the person. But this is also a good thing. Because When this kind of stress creeps up on you "frequently" (emphasizing this word because it is something serious), it is a warning sign that you may not be in the proper alignment with the things that you really want in your life and eventually may have to consider changing it. Which bring us to the next step, Change.

Changing one's outlook when faced with situations that causes distress is a move to health and eventually much more. The question that one may think about now is how do I initiate change? Where do I go? Do I need to go to a psychologist or a doctor for medication to help me change? To tell you honestly, if you know the things that brings that smile on your face you'd find yourself in the doctor's exam room only for your annual check-up. To help you out, here's a little exercise:

Sit back in a comfortable chair or simply lay down on bed. Close your eyes and remember the time when you were a kid anticipating a gift that you had always wanted and was expecting to get on christmas. Recall how that moment felt like when you were unwrapping gift box after gift box looking for that one thing until the moment you finally opened the right one. When you open your eyes again, think about how you're feeling right now, after you've placed yourself in that situation of time.

I know it was just a piece of the past but it was enough to bring you that warm happy feeling. It is that feeling of joy and happiness that will act as your guide to tell you that you are on the right track. It is that same thing that will help you cope with most of the distress you are experiencing in life. When you start to pursue, take time out and do the things that bring out that same feeling of bliss, this is how you know that you are on the right path to the changes and events that will please you in life. Look at the list below and see if any of them bring about that same feeling:

A puppy or a little kitten playing with their toy.
Writing a journal about how well your day has been
Telling a bed time story to the kid you love
Playing golf, tennis, badminton with friends and family
A dinner date with your partner
An out of town trip with family, friends or your loved one.
Dancing at a club or party scene
Drawing or sketching stuff that catches your attention
Landscaping your garden and seeing the trees and flowers bloom
Watching the Simpson's and other funny and utterly ridiculuous shows
Going out on a Nature Trip
Giving a gift to the one you love anticipating their reaction

This is a list that can go on and on. All it takes is finding out what makes you smile for "real"(not that corporate social smile we are so used to putting on in front of all the public scrutiny). The key to having a distress free life is following what give you eustress in the first place. And in doing the things that you love, the possibilities that may come out of it are endless.

Remember stress is something good. It advises you when you are experiencing something bad and negative, telling you that this is not right and that you may not be where you really want to be or are supposed to be. It can also tell you through eustress, all the good and positive feelings, that you are exactly where you are supposed to be. Fight of flight was the rule of the jungle, we live in a new era now. What you have to face in this day and age is to choose between dealing with it or not. The key to life is amazingly simple - all it takes is to "FEEL GOOD".

1 comment(s) to... “Handling Stress - FEEL GOOD”


Anonymous said...

thanks for the info metz..

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